I’ve never been one to do this activity. To reflect on an entire year, rate it, and talk about how to improve for the next year. In my career, that’s all I do. Plan, prepare, research, execute, analyze results, discuss with team, make adjustments. Just never applied it to my personal life with regards to a year in review. So, here goes.
2018 was a tough year for me. 2017 was also tough. The toughest period of my entire life. Over a two year stretch of time. Yikes! Putting pen to paper,… or finger to keyboard, it’s a difficult process to do this right now. It forces me to re-experience a lot of the hurt, pain, and disappointment, and also the really good I’d lived through. Forces me to pinpoint each part in isolation and analyze it to the point of becoming Sherlock Holmes, Harriet the Spy, or Nancy Drew. Investigate it down to its core. If you’ve read my first post, you’d know that this is a short period of my life that was horrible. But I can safely say that it’s getting better and I’m determined to make 2019 the best year yet!!
My biggest takeaways from 2018:
1- Appreciate the good people you have in your life- the tribe!
Good people (aka your Tribe)- these people are the ones who are there to build you up and cheer you on. Hold on tight to them and let them know how they make you feel about yourself. A tribe doesn’t need to be many. Once you find it, you’re an unstoppable force. You can do anything because you believe it, and your tribe won’t let you forget it!
2- Love on your family, hard
This one makes me tear up a bit. I’m so blessed. So thankful. I saw something recently that I wanted to share.
I have to remember how blessed I am. Even in the dark, stormy days, I’m still blessed and have an insurmountable amount of treasures in my life.
I have a husband who is smart, funny, handy (And handsy 😜), supportive, and incredibly sexy. He’s a great partner and father. He takes care of our small family. Aside from his inability to turn off the lights when he leaves a room, he’s pretty perfect! 😉
My kids. I have a 3 and (almost) 2 year old. I had complications with both pregnancies. Luckily, both were born absolutely perfect and are in excellent health. They’re smart and make me smile every single day 😍. They are the best things I’ve ever done in my entire life. I made them. And they are awesome little people. Except for when they take their marker to my drywall, or dip their ice cream in the toilet, or stick their suckers to the carpet in a super dark and secretive place.
3- Make time for your people
I live off my Google calendar- work and personal business. If it’s not on my calendar, I don’t have to do it, right? If it’s scheduled on there, it’s serious. I committed to it!
I made a conscious effort this year to schedule out time to spend with my kids, my husband, with my sister, with my parents, with my loyal friends. Literally schedule. I found that if I didn’t make that conscious effort to schedule the time in my calendar, it fell by the wayside. This isn’t college anymore where everyone in your dorm or apartment would walk the ten steps from their room to yours to “chill” 😜 all night. As an adult with more and more responsibilities as each day, month, year goes on, it’s much harder to see your friends. Luckily, most likely, they’re going through the same time and calendar struggle as you, so together making that a priority has been an awesome part of 2018. I plan to continue this next year.
4- Use caution with blind trust
The key to this is to not blindly trust. I like to think that most people are good. I don’t think those are bad words to live by, but that leaves a portion of people who are out for themselves. When opportunity controls their loyalty, there’s no real trust there. This goes back to appreciating ‘the tribe’ and the support they give you.
Once I identified the people that aren’t loyal to our relationship, it was an obvious decision. I had to cut my losses and start the process of moving on. Not an easy process, but as time goes by, it does get easier. LEAN ON YOUR TRIBE!
For 2019, I see a new me. I see that I will be taking my life back. I will be making more of an effort to live my best life. Intentionally targeting efforts for attaining my goals. Loving and supporting those in my tribe and throwing kindness like confetti.
To help me do this, I am starting a daily journaling process with goal setting. Daily goal setting. Yeah, you read that right. I’m committing to writing a daily goal and reflecting on how I did with it each night.
A Harvard Business Study found that the 3% of graduates from their MBA who had their goals written down, ended up earning ten times as much as the other 97% put together, just ten years after graduation.
My big goals for 2019 are yet to be determined. I’ve still got a few hours to decide 😜.
2019,… I’m coming back!! ❤️🙌
Happy New Year! 🎆🎈🎊
We are all in this together.